Log in

Thu, May. 25th, 2006, 11:49 pm
shamrockkiss: completely nothing to do with this dead community... :p

Get one of your own! by Drunken Hero

Stalkers are twats. A cautionary tale from angylborn.

shamrockkiss is stalking angylborn
shamrockkiss’s REAL name : Vieira Severn
shamrockkiss’s REAL DOB : 15th March 1979
Height :198 cm Weight : 121.5 kg
shamrockkiss has dreamt about you : 17 times
shamrockkiss became interested in you : 24th September 2003
shamrockkiss’s latest dream about you
You are working in an ice cream parlour. shamrockkiss approaches the counter and asks for a whipped vanilla cone. You step out from behind the counter brandishing a leather whip in full BDSM gear.
This is how shamrockkiss describes your relationship behind your back
‘I think she likes me. She must like me otherwise she would have told me to fuck off surely? Perhaps she’s just polite. Fuck please God, make her love me!’
shamrockkiss’s been stealing stuff from your house too.
shamrockkiss has a habit of searching angylborn’s home for sex toys and ‘borrowing’ any that they find.
They’ve even started modifying their body for you
shamrockkiss is considering having reconstructive surgery on their earlobes so that they are similar in appearance to your own.
They sent the following message to you in a Valentines
Everyday without you is death. I’ve decided it’s best that we end our lives in each others arms. My brother knows a fellow who can buy cynaide pills on the cheap. Let’s do it, for us.

The Police
No. calls to the police : 16 times
Your Last Call to The Police
"Hello is that the police? Ah good, it’s just there’s this maniac standing outside my house in the pouring rain waving at me, with flowers in their hand. I think they’ve been following me for the last year Their name? shamrockkiss."
shamrockkiss’s Police File
It is only a matter of time before we encover a mass of decomposed bodies within shamrockkiss’s refridgerator.

Testimonies about shamrockkiss
elexa - Dry your eyes
‘To be honest I think angylborn and shamrockkiss deserve each other. Both of them are fucking idiots.’
sunnybananas - Fathers goats
‘How depressing. I feel sorry for angylborn, she’s kind as fuck to a fault. Always willing to give people the benefit of the doubt. All of this sickens me.'’
sciencequeen - O’Vomit-a-lot
‘I use the word cunt sparingly - it’s more effective that way. I’ve spent all morning texting shamrockkiss, with that word playing a key role in most of my messages.’

Fri, Sep. 30th, 2005, 01:49 pm
katie8471: (no subject)

do your kids tell a kid theyve never met that they love them and try to pull them in to hug them? I dont mean like they play for 20 minutes and THEN he loves them. I mean sit next to a kid and listen to the librarian read a story and in the story grab the kid next to them and tell them they love them and try to hug them. husband doesnt see the problem. I helped son to put his hands on his own body and reminded him that we need to keep our hands to ourselves and keep them on our OWN body ONLY. husband thinks that was unnecessary. but I think he needs to know there is a time and place for such things and that we do NOT love strangers. NOT teaching him this stuff is just setting him up for problems.

added note: he was adopted from Russia about 18 months ago. he is 3.

Tue, Jun. 14th, 2005, 04:58 pm
flame_298: (no subject)

Image hosted by Photobucket.com

Sat, Mar. 5th, 2005, 11:57 am
katie8471: I think I am losing my mind.

I just dont think anyone understands. noone else sees this stuff but me. so I am just the crazy woman. the "you arent taking your antidepressants and its the depression talking" woman. and of course when WOULD anyone else see it? when we go out he acts like an angel. when he goes to someone else's house he acts like an angel. when someone is here he is so taken with amusing them that he doesnt have time to act out. I dont care what he (husband) says, it is not normal for a two year old to wrestle a one year old to the floor. or maybe I should rephrase that to say it is not ok. I am losing it. but of course, really there is nothing wrong. its just typical behavior. He is just friendly with strangers because he is a friendly kid. every kid takes delight in knocking his baby sister on her head. every kids smiles and laughs with glee when being reprimanded. every kid looks at you defiantly and smiles as he does exactly what you just told him not to. oh and of course there is always the fact that "but hes so much more animated now than he was before he came home" well yeah that just makes everything alright then doesnt it.

Thu, Nov. 25th, 2004, 08:36 pm
shamrockkiss: Dr. Phil

Dr. Phil finally touched on RAD yesterday... there was a 15 year old girl on the show who was diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder. The father and step mother ended up sending her away at the end of the show because this girl was trying to kill her step mom... poisoning food, hiding knives... scary stuff. I just look at my mom like... whoa... please don't let her get to that point...

My kids are doing pretty good... I'm surprised how much they've improved actually. I'm not so worried about them anymore. Atleast not as far as RAD goes. I wish my stepsisters were getting better. One of them has been doing better from what I've seen... but the younger one is just getting worse. She stresses everyone out... she just doesn't seem to understand that people are trying to help her... she's always in trouble at school... It's rough.. she's only like 7 or 8... she thinks everyone hates her... you wanna just hug her and tell her she's loved.. but you give her just a little and she's manipulating you left right and center. And it's actually at the point where no one can be alone with her.. cuz she makes false accusations for the attention. It's horrible.

Apparently the way to go to correct RAD is boot camp. Take everything away, and make them earn everything back. But my god... that's hard to do to a kid...

I really feel for my mom and step dad. They're at wit's end with these girls, and I don't blame them. I see what they go through on a daily basis. I sure hope they get the youngest straightened out soon though... RAD turns into some sort of psychosis by the looks of it... that family on Dr. Phil... terrifying.

Tue, Oct. 19th, 2004, 02:17 pm
katie8471: M day. cross posted to my journal and adopted parent.

(tuesdays a large group of the moms/dads and kids from the residency go to McD's playland for lunch.) I havent gone for a long long time. And I have never taken Ethan. we went once with just a girlfriend and he asked the people at the table next to us for a bite. he was very chatty with anyone. But he did really well today. he didnt ask ANYONE to pick him up. not even the people we knew. There were a lot of us there and he knew all the families we were with but there were a few other families there that we didnt know who were just there to enjoy playland and not a part of the residency. he didnt bother them either. (of course he chowed TWO cheeseburgers before he ran to play!)when we got there one little girl ran to him and he ran right back to me and hid his face. this little girl is an in your face kid and he doesnt care for her AT ALL. he repeatedly ran to me and hugged my legs if anything didnt feel right. that is good too. and once I was out of his sight but still watching him and I caught the look in his eye as he was looking and looking and it wasnt panic but it was definitely WHERE IS MY MOM! I called his name and when he saw me he ran and hugged me again. then ran off to play some more. he didnt really even want anything to do with the other kids. just do his own thing and make sure momma is close by. it was very sweet and very encouraging. I dont think we will do this every week as it throws the nap schedule to hell. not to mention my weightloss! of course hauling two 19 pounders anywhere is a workout! I am just so happy that he did so well. he LOVES renae and he didnt really even want to talk to her. it felt good to really be his mommy. For so long it has just been me trying to be the mommy but him not quite believing it. I am beaming with pride! tears! he IS my little boy! and slowly becoming more affectionate and less demanding. everyone was amazed with his speech. what can I say, he is an amzing child! and mine all mine! (well ok and daddys too but still MINE!) I am very encouraged to say the least.

Sun, Oct. 17th, 2004, 04:01 pm
shamrockkiss: A new approach...

So while we've been with a lifeskills coach for the last week in school.. I've decided to give some of his suggestions a try in parenting. Things like not asking "why?" and simply stating even to a 5 year old, what his behavior is, how it's making me feel and what I'm going to do because of it. Sounds cheesy I know.. surprisingly though, it shocks him. He stops.. and thinks.. and usually that's the end of it. I have to admit that in the last couple of days, I've been getting along much better with my children.

What you have to expect with RAD is.. they're smart kids.. and as soon as they figure out what you're doing, they'll learn to manipulate that too. BUT... instead of fighting.. or crying, or destroying things.. he's talking to me. He's saying things that I know he's saying just to watch me get frustrated.. but it's a step. We're talking instead of yelling now. I feel like I might actually have something going here.. like I might be able to reach him now.. and his little brother too.

Up until now, I've been manipulating him back.. just to get what I want. For example, he starts screaming because I won't let him have a cookie before dinner. Usually I'll get upset and he'll be screaming with a smile on his face because he knows he's gotten to me. So I'll tell him to scream louder. To cry louder. Don't stop! And he'll stop. An effective metheod of controling RAD kids, but like others.. it stops working. They're too smart. He keeps screaming now.. because he knows that I'm only trying to manipulate him when I tell him to keep screaming.

Talking with him.. there's not much he can do to make me crazy. He can say what he likes.. I call him on everything. I dont' ask him why he does things.. just tell him what the consequences are for doing them and ask what he plans to do now. He keeps the control he needs, because his answer is never wrong.. but he knows there's a consequence to everything he does. I think this is important for RAD kids to realize.. and for me, this metheod seems to be working out pretty well. I make a point of making statements to him when he does things that are good too. Sometimes it's really hard for me to push aside my frustrations when he's doing something bad, not to scream or throw him in his room.. but it's been worth it.

Micheal, at 5, is learning what alot of people dont' learn till much later in life and what I think is incredibly important for him to understand to help get past his RAD behaviours. He doesn't need to manipulate for control. He is already in control. He controls himself and his behaviors and decides what consequences he faces based on what he chooses to do. Tough to explain to a child yea.. but simple to state examples to them over and over as they happen. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for. He's starting to get it.

Infact.. although my youngest doesn't speak.. (he's 3, I think he chooses not to talk as a form of control..) He's smart, and he listens. So this has actually had an effect on him too.

Tue, Sep. 28th, 2004, 09:26 pm
shamrockkiss: (no subject)

I decided to start this community because I've not been able to find a lj community for RAD. I myself am still very beginner to Reactive Attachment Disorder. I'm a single mother of two boys, 3 and 5, who are both suspected to have RAD to some degree, the youngest having it more severely. A little less that 2 years ago, the boys lost their father to suicide. From there on things got worse for them. Their young mother, being distraught over her young husbands death, became a neglectant mother involved heavily in drugs. Although I did clean myself up, the damage was done, and more was to be done. I met a man with whom I moved myself and the kids across the country to be with. We lived with him for several months, moving province to province, but it took a turn for the worse and I fled with the boys back to my home province. So now, they have further abandoment issues and are feeling no doubt more insecure.

While my oldest is dealing fairly normally, with only a few problems, my youngest son seems to have a severe case of RAD. He is 3 years old, extremely small for his age, does not speak and shows no interest in learning to speak. Instead he whines and cries to get his way. If I offer him something, it doesn't matter what it is, he wants the opposite. He is probably the most defiant child I've ever known.

To anyone who first meets either one of my boys, they will actually be impressed with how well behaved they are, and how cute they act. But as I've learned.. it's part of their manipulation.

My step sisters have RAD. Their mother was and is still a drug abuser. My parents have been dealing with this disorder for several years, and it is very stressful trying to correct this.

I'm hoping that this community will grow to be a useful resource for infomation about RAD, as well as a place for support to those affected in any way by RAD.

Feel free to post stories, links, ask questions, or just say hello. :)