I decided to start this community because I've not been able to find a lj community for RAD. I myself am still very beginner to Reactive Attachment Disorder. I'm a single mother of two boys, 3 and 5, who are both suspected to have RAD to some degree, the youngest having it more severely. A little less that 2 years ago, the boys lost their father to suicide. From there on things got worse for them. Their young mother, being distraught over her young husbands death, became a neglectant mother involved heavily in drugs. Although I did clean myself up, the damage was done, and more was to be done. I met a man with whom I moved myself and the kids across the country to be with. We lived with him for several months, moving province to province, but it took a turn for the worse and I fled with the boys back to my home province. So now, they have further abandoment issues and are feeling no doubt more insecure.
While my oldest is dealing fairly normally, with only a few problems, my youngest son seems to have a severe case of RAD. He is 3 years old, extremely small for his age, does not speak and shows no interest in learning to speak. Instead he whines and cries to get his way. If I offer him something, it doesn't matter what it is, he wants the opposite. He is probably the most defiant child I've ever known.
To anyone who first meets either one of my boys, they will actually be impressed with how well behaved they are, and how cute they act. But as I've learned.. it's part of their manipulation.
My step sisters have RAD. Their mother was and is still a drug abuser. My parents have been dealing with this disorder for several years, and it is very stressful trying to correct this.
I'm hoping that this community will grow to be a useful resource for infomation about RAD, as well as a place for support to those affected in any way by RAD.
Feel free to post stories, links, ask questions, or just say hello. :)